Social media at its worst – post-mortem cyber-bullying | Measuring Social Media

Social media at its worst – post-mortem cyber-bullying | Measuring Social Media:


The problem of cyber-bullying hit me hard last week. As I wrote last week, I volunteer as a critical incident stress management debriefer. Most of the debriefings I do are with first responders – fire, EMS, police, dispatchers and similar workers. But our team also reaches out to the community; when you hear on the news that grief counselors are available to an organization after an incident, that’s us. The reason cyber-bullying is on my mind is that over the last few weeks, I have spent quite a bit of time with teenagers who are trying to cope with the suicides of friends.

Confidentiality is paramount, so I cannot offer any details of any incident I’ve been involved in. But imagine a middle school or high school student who learns that a friend has committed or attempted suicide, who goes to that friend’s MySpace, Facebook or other social media home page and finds mean and horrible things written about them. What’s worse, imagine if those things were written after their friend took that awful step.

I came away from one recent set of debriefings absolutely convinced that if there is any possible way to do it, the industry should figure out a rapid way to disable, freeze or at least moderate the pages of any minor who has been a victim of violence. I emphasize “rapidly” because word gets around fast (a whole separate problem; texting is not a good way to find out your friend is dead) and cyber-bullies can post unbelievably nasty messages in no time at all.

One of those important things we tend to forget in designing sites; social sites need some way for the authorities to contact them quickly and reliably and get things frozen while real life gets sorted out. Sad that it’s needed, but it is.

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  • http://strategicbookpublishing.com/StoriesOfTheStreet.html Rev. Steve Best

    Care for First Responders
    In every case of tragedy caused by accident or crime, the public always focuses its attention on the victims and their families. And, that is it the way it should be when death or serious injury occurs. This is even more true in the injury of death of a child or family.
    There is, however, another group that also feels the pain. The first responders are the ones who work the scene in the most difficult of circumstances. They must stay outside the box of personal emotions in order to maintain control of a scene. But when the day is over, and these public servants return to their homes and to their families, the realities of a critical incident become a potential source of personal heartache.
    Chuqui has it right when he participates in Critical Incident Stress Management sessions.
    Let us all be conscious of the feelings of our first responders and lift them up on prayer. Ref: Stories of the Street: Images of the Human Condition. http://www.strategicbookpublishing.com/StoriesOfTheStreet.html

  • http://strategicbookpublishing.com/StoriesOfTheStreet.html Rev. Steve Best

    Care for First Responders
    In every case of tragedy caused by accident or crime, the public always focuses its attention on the victims and their families. And, that is it the way it should be when death or serious injury occurs. This is even more true in the injury of death of a child or family.
    There is, however, another group that also feels the pain. The first responders are the ones who work the scene in the most difficult of circumstances. They must stay outside the box of personal emotions in order to maintain control of a scene. But when the day is over, and these public servants return to their homes and to their families, the realities of a critical incident become a potential source of personal heartache.
    Chuqui has it right when he participates in Critical Incident Stress Management sessions.
    Let us all be conscious of the feelings of our first responders and lift them up on prayer. Ref: Stories of the Street: Images of the Human Condition. http://www.strategicbookpublishing.com/StoriesOfTheStreet.html